HI everyone! This post is a transcript of a talk organized by SFU’s Institute for the Humanities Friday Oct 13. Since the invitation to do the talk grew out of the Nurturance Culture blog, I decided to write it the same way I would write any other piece. I posted the in-process work here, and it grew […]Read more "On Nurturance and Vulnerability in Academic Life"
“Feminism taught me the difference between a conviction in the head and a change in the way you live.” –Stuart Hall, speaking of things he learned from Catherine Barrett From 1996 to 2005 I worked at a summer camp in Western Massachusetts teaching kids conflict resolution skills. In a beautiful mountain setting, we worked to […]Read more "Hold Together: We Need Conflict Skills Now More Than Ever"
This page is a list of resources to help those around survivors of gendered / raced harm begin or continue learning about good ways to respond. As anyone who has begun the process of supporting survivors will no doubt have perceived, distinct bystander patterns emerge. These same patterns are described in all of these resources, dating […]Read more "Resources for Dealing with Conflict and Harm"
(English version here) Je n’arrête pas de discuter de ça, encore et encore. Ce truc, quand quelqu’un ruine ta perception de la réalité, et te dit que t’es timbrée, ou nie qu’un truc est en train de se produire au moment où c’est en train de se produire, tu vois ? Quand les personnes que nous […]Read more "le Gaslighting"
Have you ever had that dream where something bad is happening to you, but when you try to ask for help, you can’t speak? You try to scream for help but you just can’t get the words out? This doesn’t only happen in dreams. It happens in real life as well. Survivors of gendered violence experience this […]Read more "Psychological Harm is Physical Harm 2: Why Survivors Lose Their Voice"
The presidential debates, horrific as their results were, provided survivors everywhere with a strange, backwards gift. A recent piece notes: “It’s remarkable how many female viewers report feeling physically ill.” Trout has not touched any of them, not directly. Yet what survivors are reporting, watching him enter their living rooms via their TV screens, is that this kind […]Read more "Psychological Harm is Physical Harm 1: Abuse Shapes the Brain"
Of soup-friends and token-exchangers. I’ve noticed a pattern. (surprise!) It seems to me that two very different models exist of what people in our culture think we are doing when we nurture one another. This makes sense given that any modern culture is a complex swirl of ancestral inheritances only recently jumbled together and barely […]Read more "Two Models of Nurturance (Which One Are You?)"