Happy to say that this little book Turn This World Inside Out: The Emergence of Nurturance Culture is scheduled for release on June 18, 2019. You can already pre-order! Early Bird Pre-order 25% off direct from AK Press I’m excited to share these essays and dialogues with wonderful contributors. Book includes dialogue pieces on themes: ‘Jon […]Read more "Book release date!"
There is a variation on ‘Not All Men.’ It is called ‘I Feel Bad When You Say That.’ My godson Kyle is six. He is fairly emotionally perceptive for his age, as his grownups have been working with him to create an emotionally responsible and self-aware boy who we hope will grow into an emotionally […]Read more "Own, Apologize, Repair: Coming Back to Integrity"
I keep having the same conversation over and over. That thing where someone undermines your perception of reality, and says you’re crazy, or denies that something is happening that is in fact happening? When people we love and trust do that to us? It really messes with our minds. Over time, or when it is about important […]Read more "On Gaslighting"
The opposite of masculine rape culture is masculine nurturance culture: men* increasing their capacity to nurture, and becoming whole. The Ghomeshi trial is back in the news, and it brings violent sexual assault back into people’s minds and daily conversations. Of course violence is wrong, even when the court system for handling it is a disaster. That part seems […]Read more "The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture"
Turn This World Inside Out is now available for pre-order directly from AK Press. Visit here to pre-order yours! https://www.akpress.org/turn-this-world-inside-out.html Early bird pre-orders get 25% off!Read more "Early Bird pre-order direct from AK Press"
“Feminism taught me the difference between a conviction in the head and a change in the way you live.” –Stuart Hall, speaking of things he learned from Catherine Barrett From 1996 to 2005 I worked at a summer camp in Western Massachusetts teaching kids conflict resolution skills. In a beautiful mountain setting, we worked to […]Read more "Hold Together: We Need Conflict Skills Now More Than Ever"
HI everyone! This post is a transcript of a talk organized by SFU’s Institute for the Humanities Friday Oct 13. Since the invitation to do the talk grew out of the Nurturance Culture blog, I decided to write it the same way I would write any other piece. I posted the in-process work here, and it grew […]Read more "On Nurturance and Vulnerability in Academic Life"
Have you ever had that dream where something bad is happening to you, but when you try to ask for help, you can’t speak? You try to scream for help but you just can’t get the words out? This doesn’t only happen in dreams. It happens in real life as well. Survivors of gendered violence experience this […]Read more "Psychological Harm is Physical Harm 2: Why Survivors Lose Their Voice"
The presidential debates, horrific as their results were, provided survivors everywhere with a strange, backwards gift. A recent piece notes: “It’s remarkable how many female viewers report feeling physically ill.” Trout has not touched any of them, not directly. Yet what survivors are reporting, watching him enter their living rooms via their TV screens, is that this kind […]Read more "Psychological Harm is Physical Harm 1: Abuse Shapes the Brain"
Of soup-friends and token-exchangers. I’ve noticed a pattern. (surprise!) It seems to me that two very different models exist of what people in our culture think we are doing when we nurture one another. This makes sense given that any modern culture is a complex swirl of ancestral inheritances only recently jumbled together and barely […]Read more "Two Models of Nurturance (Which One Are You?)"