My regular readers will know that I give my posts to a panel of mostly-male early readers before they go public. One of these early readers read For Men Who Desperately Need Autonomy and asked me to add a section flippantly called How You Can Put This Into Practice Right Now If You Are Flipping Out Because […]Read more "Connection In Practice: The Tricks of Shame and Hope"
Attunement is not a ‘task’ that can be carried out. You can provide physical care in a connected or a disconnected way. The cues that tell the limbic brain ‘I’m with you; we are connected,’ are tremendously subtle. Connection isn’t forced through willpower or memorization; rather, it occurs when you allow your true self to […]Read more "Nurturance is about more than ‘tasks’"
Out of the Attic: dissociation and social justice This is a workshop created over three years from information gathered as I was learning about my own experiences and integrating. A sandbox version of this workshop was offered in Vancouver in the Spring of 2015 with organizers and friends I have known for years, which generated ideas that […]Read more "Out of the Attic: dissociation and social justice"
Gwen works at the Institute, the source of all knowledge production in the world. The Institute’s rectilinear stone columns and thin white cutstone steps fill her imagination, and her work fills her days. Slowly her orderly, linear world begins to crack at the edges. In the oldest part of the Institute, a woman in white stands in […]Read more "Cipher"
The news today is full of the results of the trial. All the survivors I know are triggered as shit. All of us, all reliving the sense of powerlessness, the screaming into the void. Ask survivors in your life if they are ok, today. Remember survivors are listening to how you talk about Canada’s former […]Read more "No Still Means No – Even if You “Love His Hands”"
Feminist men* of the internets: I hear you asking how you can help, how you can support survivors. This post was first composed after a certain famous abuser CBC host’s trial concluded; yet it feels relevant once again in this moment before the inauguration, as movements are gearing up to protect those directly affected. We […]Read more "So if men ask before sex, will we have solved patriarchy?"
YES! We are still taking submissions for new posts! Dating Tips for the Feminist Man is accepting submissions for a series on your own personal experiences of masculine* nurturance culture. Send us your ways to finish this sentence: “Nurturance Is…” What does masculine nurturance culture look like, feel like, taste like? What is the timing, the rhythm, […]Read more "Call for Submissions: “Nurturance Is…”"