This page is a list of resources to help those around survivors of gendered / raced harm begin or continue learning about good ways to respond. As anyone who has begun the process of supporting survivors will no doubt have perceived, distinct bystander patterns emerge. These same patterns are described in all of these resources, dating […]Read more "How To Not Reinjure Survivors: a Resource List"
Because the beautiful responses keep coming in, and because we need some good words today: six more replies to ‘Nurturance Culture’: 1. Nurturance is the feel of your bristly beard on my forehead as I melt into your arms after you pick me up from a three day therapeutic retreat. It’s in your suggestion to fold the […]Read more "We need some good news today: six more ‘Nurturance Culture’ entries"
Gwen works at the Institute, the source of all knowledge production in the world. The Institute’s rectilinear stone columns and thin white cutstone steps fill her imagination, and her work fills her days. Slowly her orderly, linear world begins to crack at the edges. In the oldest part of the Institute, a woman in white stands in […]Read more "Cipher"
The news today is full of the results of the trial. All the survivors I know are triggered as shit. All of us, all reliving the sense of powerlessness, the screaming into the void. Ask survivors in your life if they are ok, today. Remember survivors are listening to how you talk about Canada’s former […]Read more "No Still Means No – Even if You “Love His Hands”"
Feminist men* of the internets: I hear you asking how you can help, how you can support survivors. This post was first composed after a certain famous abuser CBC host’s trial concluded; yet it feels relevant once again in this moment before the inauguration, as movements are gearing up to protect those directly affected. We […]Read more "So if men ask before sex, will we have solved patriarchy?"
O oposto da cultura masculina de estupro é a cultura masculina de acolhimento: homens* aumentando sua capacidade de acolher, tornando-se plenos. O julgamento Ghomeshi volta aos noticiários, trazendo o tópico da agressão sexual violenta de volta às mentes das pessoas e às conversas cotidianas. Certamente a violência é errada, mesmo quando o sistema jurídico que […]Read more "O Oposto da Cultura de Estupro é a Cultura de Acolhimento"
Consejos para el hombre feminista. Este artículo está escrito en honor a los hombres feministas y los rituales que hacen al salir con alguien. Eres un hombre cis, heterosexual, monógamo, y de izquierdas. Quizás seas un Marxista o socialista; o quizás seas un anarquista. Respetas a las mujeres. Nunca te comportarías como un Don Juan. […]Read more "Consejos para el hombre feminista"